Sexual flirting

Women love to flirt.

Right now you're either nodding in agreement or completely bewildered.

However this is a fundamental truth. Flirting pushes a woman through a broad range of emotions. They feel excitement followed by challenge at the next moment followed by curiosity and so on. It is extremely fun for them and a absolutely crucial tool in your arsenal.

Of course this is assuming you know how to flirt properly.

I didn't half a year ago. I assumed that knowing funky routines would serve me fine. However you can only run the cube, strawberry fields and MBTI analysis so many times before your target has heard them before (meaning ... just one time bub). Cocky funny on the other hand can become tiresome. You have to progress and allow the girl to win you over at some point.

Then my natural roommate introduced to me a rather unorthodox idea. It didn't involve complicated routines and tricks or even a superb sense of sarcastic humour. All it required was horniness - a resource that I'm sure all of us red-blooded men have plenty of.

His advice was essentially this: Move the conversation to something sexual as soon as possible.

That's all there is to it. You don't have to know a lot of cool things or be able to joke all the time - just demonstrate that you find her sexuality interesting.

As Juggler pointed out - you're not interested in sex in general (that'll make you a sex-obsessed horn-dog, like all the other guys out there) but in your target's sexiness specifically.

I couldn't believe the results I started getting as soon as I used this. Nothing sexual will happen until your target is comfortable with your sexuality. And yet AFC's try to get laid by talking to women about everything but sex thinking that they'll be frowned upon for being pervs.

Do not buy into this AFC idea!!

Now I will discuss this system, looking at the inner game aspects followed by the outer game aspects of it:

Inner game

You must must must must have a attitude that sex is not that big a deal. It is something that happens everyday, and it will eventually happen between your target and you ;) Talk about sex like you're discussing the weather. You're a man of options, you 'get-a dis' as Borat says.

Be non-judgmental about sex. You're not a prude are you? If she sees that you don't judge people on their openness towards sex but rather encourage it she will be sucked into your frame and open up sexually to you too :D

Outer game

Start with discussing sex in general. Open up the topic by making an observation about people and sex in general.

It can be something funny like 'I think women are the real sexual predators. Think about it - only women who have an organ that has no other purpose than to provide sexual pleasure...' (Credit: Tyler Durden's sexual predator routine)

Or you can bring up some interesting facts about human sexuality based on evolutionary psychology. Or just some sex scandal that's making the tabloids.

It doesn't matter as long as it's related to sex and gets the topic onto sex.

At this point it is just a discussion about sex in general and you have the frame that sex is not a big deal. She will be comfortable discussing the topic. Thus you have sneakily introduced a sexual undertone to the interaction.

Now to move things along. You have get the conversation to sex between the two of you.

A few ways to do this:

• Sexual innuendos/teasing. Twist what she says and accuse her of trying to get you into bed. Of course with a frame that it's all good and acceptable. Eg: "Wow so soon? Hmm you're forward =) However I need trust and comfort first."
• Future projections. I love love love this! By talking about an event in the future where she would be having/had sex with you you not only implant this idea into her head but additionally you're reinforcing a frame where sex between you and your target is only a matter of time.
• Descriptions. This is more advanced and your target better be conditioned to your sexuality. I love using this, especially for online game since kino is unavailable. You essentially construct in her mind an elaborate and very sensual scene between her and yourself. Make sure your words cover all the senses. Have a gigantic vocabulary of adjectives to describe things. Read female romance novels or adult fiction if you need examples and inspiration. If she can see clearly in her mind how your fingers are lighly brushing the soft skin of her thigh, slowly moving under the hem of her skirt... she can feel it as well and she will be plenty wet and wanting to hump you in 5 minutes :D :D

It's all about her comfort so don't force it, lead with a strong frame. Ease her into it. Once she's comfortable talking sexually she will be ready to do more than just talk with you.

Some troubleshooting:

What if the girl keeps telling me she's not comfortable discussing sex with a guy?
> I get this quite often. But then again I tend to target prudish virgins... The answer is to just plow through with a strong frame that sex is about as big a deal as today's weather. She's just saying that thanks to her social programming to be a good, non-sexual girl (as is the case in Asian cultures like here in Malaysia and Singapore). The truth is that she's really enjoying this. And think of all the emotions you're stirring up - you're giving her a taste of the 'forbidden'. More emotions = panties off faster :D

What if she states explicitly she's not interested in sex with me?
Have patience young padawan. No matter how well you gamed her, she will still have Anti-Slut Defence as required by social programming. Cool it off and keep gaming her. The best you can hope for is a neutral response to the idea of sex with you. I take this as an implicit 'yes' to go sexual kino when we get privacy...

Okay I really hope this helps you guys as much as it has helped me! Any and all feedback is welcome =)

The Essentials - Part 2

Sorry I haven't been posting lately, fellas!

I found a way to overcome my approach anxiety (AA) and with my newfound abilities I've been able to start sarging. I'm going to field test my anti-AA tactics and if it's good I'll post it up here.

Anyway, as a continuation of my previous post on Inner Game...
Outer Game

What seperates a natural from a PUA? Is it his confidence? His looks? His body odour?

Nope.

A natural is one who has strong inner game and thus can attract women based on his own confidence and charm. A good PUA on the other hand not only has his inner game in order, but he has outer game as well.

What is outer game?

If you liken PU to a sport, inner game would be your personal fitness, muscular strength, stamina, etc etc. Outer game on the other hand would be your knowledge of the techniques involved in the sport. For example how to dribble a ball, how to kick it, how to tackle, etc etc.

In PU outer game is the things that you do in field. They are the routines, the tricks, the gambits, the patterns that you use in-field to make women insanely attracted to you. Outer game also includes the understanding of the social dynamics of a situation, and the knowledge of how to manipulate such a situation.

Is outer game more important than inner game?

While yes you can get great results with good outer game alone, inner game is the foundation upon which your entire game rests. Think of inner game as a multiplier to your outer game.

Going back to the sports example, if you have good overall fitness no matter what sport you partake in and which tactics you use, you will be generally proficient at it. A weakling on the other hand will suck balls at any sport he participates in.

This is why I wrote the inner game section first. I believe in starting at the foundations and building it up from there.

I made the mistake of learning outer game first way before building up my inner game. This I believe is a commonly shared misconception amongst rookies - that if you learn all the moves you can be as good as an mPUA. In reality, we all find that the first few sarges are the hardest. My first sarge was all the way on Valentine's Day last year. It was horrific - I'd rather defecate pineapples than repeat that experience.

You see, the initial part of learning PU has this massive hurdle called 'approach anxiety'. To properly conquer that you can either just be thick skinned and plow through or you can master inner game. Both ways in the end results in a more confident and less socially anxious you. So why not take the easier way?

Okay I realise that this post is turning into a 'we should learn inner game!' post lol.

Back to why we should learn outer game. Outer game puts you a step above the natural players since you will be able to cold approach. Naturals do not do this. Period.

Being able to cold approach would mean that your targets are not limited by your social circle or circumstances. As long as you see, you like ... you will get.

Additionally outer game also provides a structure to your sarges. You know what to do, how to escalate. It boils down the muddle of the entire seduction process into an easy step-by-step science.

So how do you learn outer game? Unlike inner game which takes a lot of self-reflection on your part (this is in addition to knowing about the concepts of inner game, which is what you get from reading) outer game requires nothing more than just reading PU materials and practising it in-field.

I recommend Magic Bullets from Mystery Method. Yeah yeah you Mystery supporters would argue that Savoy stole Mystery's ideas and makes money off them but IMHO Savoy has produced a great product that teaches you just about everything you need to know about outer game.

And if you are still adamantly against Savoy, go steal his book. Magic Bullets is about the most pirated PU ebook around.

Oh but you didn't hear that from me - I'm a nice law abiding netizen, okay ;)

Okay, stop reading this!! Go learn PU, and more importantly LIVE WITH PASSION!

Incoming!

PUA ChuBeng singing in!

First, let's kick off with some basic concepts I thought that may be useful while digesting PU materials.

The OBJECTIVE of PU is understand the female psychology to a extent where we(referring to guys, unless lesbians are reading this too...) can achieve control over what they perceive of us. Sounds really terrible but that's basically PU.

The main part of PU as I humbly know it( I only read a few materials, so this statement may not be fully accurate. Please do correct me if I'm wrong) is disarming, demonstrating value and qualifying, then closing.

The main AIM of all these are to promote ATTRACTION from the girl to the guy. If there is no attraction, you won't get the girl. It is as simple as that. Common sense, right? I guess not for some people with one-itis.

I won't go into much detail about the different phases of building comfort and attraction and the other stuff but I'll just give some basic guidelines to follow.

'Leave them better than you found them' quoted from Ross Jeffries I think... This is really a main idea in attracting not only girls, but everyone. The better people feel when they're with you, they will want to be with you more often. It does not matter 'better' in which areas. As long as they feel satisfied - could be emotionally, physically or sexually, mentally excited, being on a high etc...

Many areas of PU use this concept. Demonstrating Higher Value(DHV) for instance, makes you appear as a confident and succesful guy. What's this got to do with making others feel better you say?
Before I explain my theory, 'value' is something(a quality, an ability or anything) that you possess that make you more 'valuable' or better than other guys. It can be like the ability to do magic tricks, or you can dance very well, even if you can make good lame jokes and people enjoy it shows to people that you are of higher 'value'...

Celebrities usually have a high natural value, because of their fame and fortune. If a girl gets to meet someone like Jay Chou or Brad Pitt, they will exclaim to themselves and their friend in excitement, "You know WHAT!!! I got to meet xxx, and he's really cool!!! Bla bla bla..." and that is because in their mind, they already have the prenotion that they are really capable people. Their excitement and all shows that they are satisfied emotionally and mentally.
It is the same with PUAs. If you can DHV well, and show that you are a cut above the other males, you can make the same way. Instead of 'I got to meet Jay Chou or Brad Pitt!', they'll probably exclaim, "Hey, I got to meet this cool guy! His name is [put your name here] and he bla bla bla..."
So by meeting you, they feel 'better', and thus they will like being with you. Ever seen the model student of the school getting surrounded by guys/girls? Its the same thing. High value.

Other than DHV, other stuff such as building comfort and attraction also satiates the female desire for physical touch, attraction and intimacy. And thus they will keep coming for more if you can constantly fulfill their needs.

The above paragraph may sound like it contradicts the PU guideline that a PUA must not appear as needy, but I really think attraction can only work two ways. If they don't feel satisfied or better with you, they won't feel anything for you and thus you fail. You will, in one way or another satisfy their needs because you require your hunger for sex to be satiated too. NOTHING comes for FREE.

Other than making others feel better, another note to take is to really GET A LIFE!
As Style(Neil Strauss) mentioned, a social robot a.k.a a person whose only activity in life is PU will definitely show that they have a very empty life when the girl gets to know you. Also, you have nothing much to talk about in reality because you do nothing other than PU. Do sports, hang around with friends, go learn some skills, play games, study, work or anything other than PU will definitely enrich your life and also your PUAdom much better. In a way, it becomes your 'Inner Game' as PCK mentioned below.

Also, to all keyboard jockeys, please at least do start with online gaming if you lack the balls or you are just too lazy to spend 15 mins going to your nearest shopping mall. Also, online PUing still includes real life dates so don't think you can run away with it.

Okay... That is all for now. If you have anything you want to ask or debate or teach us guys(cos we're really just rAFCs) please do leave comment or contact us. There's also a tagboard xP ---->

The Essentials - Part 1

If I were starting pick up now, what would I start with?

Well, if you happen to be someone who's new to pick up then this is a post for you!

Essentially I feel the road to penultimate success with women is paved by mastering the two fundamental areas of pickup: inner game and outer game.

Inner game is essentially the internal beliefs you hold that shape your perception of the world. Building up your inner game means uprooting the old internal beliefs that hold you back and replacing them with better, more empowering ones.

Outer game on the other hand are the techniques and methods you apply on the field to pick up. Outer game would also encompass knowledge of social dynamics - the underlying workings of social situations.

Today we will focus on inner game.

Inner Game

Have you ever met someone who just seems to exude a magnetic charisma? He never seems unsure of himself and appears to be in control no matter what the situation. When he speaks everyone listens to him. He is naturally dominant and people just go out of their way to follow him.

Likely you know someone like this. A dominant alpha male whose confidence seems to win everyone's respect and trust. Perhaps you are one of these respected alpha males.

However, more likely than not you are like the great majority of us who are not always the most assertive or dominant or likeable or confident in a social situation.

Does it mean you will remain this way forever? Maybe. Unless of course you put effort into improving your inner game.


So, how do we go about working on inner game? Should you even have to work on inner game?

Not really. If you focus entirely on outer game you will still get results. These little victories will boost your confidence. The additional confidence will increase your competance with your techniques and get you more results. It is a feedback process.

However I believe going at it this way is painful and unnecessary. By simply having some inner game knowledge, you'd be able to shave off a large portion of the learning curve. If you can make your journey easier, why the heck not?

Additionally there are schools of thought that opine that inner game is the end-all in learning pickup. According to them outer game is merely a set of trainer wheels used to build up your inner game until you get good enough to do without them. Style I believe is a proponent of such a doctrine.

I feel though that you will still need both inner game and outer game ultimately. Sure, having solid inner game puts you on par with natural pickup artists. However naturals rarely if ever do cold approaches - they merely work their social circles. By having outer game you do not have to limit yourself to friends of friends - anyone is fair game.

How to build up your inner game?


I recommend Carlos Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha Man. Or anything Carlos Xuma for that matter. His products are focused on inner game. I love the tone in which his ebook is written - it is a no-nonsense kick in the ass to get your fucking testicles out where the should be. The ebook is easy to read and digest.

If you apply his teachings you will stop being the little emo love sick puppy and become that ass kicking alpha wolf that you deserve to become.

Please note that I am in no way advertising for Carlos Xuma. I just use his stuff and it works. If you have any other good inner game product you're using, please do not hesitate to leave a comment.

I'll write a little on outer game soon. Stay tuned people!

How I started

Let's have a frank dialogue (more of a monologue - Ed) about getting started in The Game.

For most people nowadays, the introduction to the community would be through Neil Strauss' The Game. More than just an entertaining read, The Game gave readers a glimpse of what was possible with women and provided something of a guidestone with which savvy readers could use to scour the web to dig deeper into the seduction secrets of the community.

Is that a good way to start? Possibly not. Very likely all The Game did was provide a massive customer base for The Mystery Method corp.

(Which by the way isn't even run by Mystery anymore - Savoy kicked him out for breaking contract/cheated him of his company (depending on which side you support) and Mystery now runs Venusian Arts)


Anyway back when I started, the community didn't have a best-selling book and wasn't as mainstream as it is now. So I was pretty much stuck with the most accessible (i.e had the most marketting) system at the time - David Deangelo's Double your Dating.

Is it a good starter?

Quite possibly.

Within its pages, DYD provided solid bite-sized chunks of information that if you applied to your interactions with women would cause your success to explode through the roof. This was especially true for the AFC me two years ago who had as much experience with women as a fish does with exploring Mars.

This is as the main doctrine of DYD, cocky-funny (C&F), is a simple to apply and says all the right things about you. There is no need to understand complex social value systems and rapport principles - just tease the heck out of your target while not being a wussbag and she'll respond nicely.

Another good bit is that it has a decent balance of both inner game and outer game elements. Even now when I have access to a lot more material I periodically check the DYD. Overall a good eye opener and introduction to the world of seduction.

However, DYD cannot and should not be relied on as the end-all product for learning seduction. Cocky-funny works yes, but you CAN use too much of it as I did in my intial education since I lacked calibration. Furthermore DYD assumes that you know how to escalate and your target would be receptive to you just based on the attraction spikes generated by you being cocky funny.

Definitely not comprehensive.

I'll post tomorrow about how I wish I could have started by recommending what I think are the essential and basic reading materials.

In the beginning...

...there was a sad, sappy story.

This is usually how AFC's arrive at the doorsteps of The Community.

Torn by an incurable case of one-itis that ended in a tragic LJBF, these lost souls seeking redemption of their broken egos and hearts find salvation in the form of a fraternity of men sharing their wisdom on matters pertaining to the fairer sex.

Bolstered by their new found knowledge, these bro- -




OKAY IF I KEEP WRITING LIKE THIS I'M GOING TO PUKE ALL OVER MY KEYBOARD!


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LOL okay stop snoring already! I'll get into the technical nitty-gritty later, and you can bet your bottom dollar that I'll spare no effort to give you a detailed look at the technical stuff within the PU methods.

All for free because I'm a great guy unlike certain *cough*cough* Pick Up "Gurus" who churn out rubbish ebooks in hopes that some n00b AFC will splurge on them.

So what you can expect to find here would be links to useful PU material, field reports, insights into the Game, and random philosophising on life and other matters.

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