The Essentials - Part 1

If I were starting pick up now, what would I start with?

Well, if you happen to be someone who's new to pick up then this is a post for you!

Essentially I feel the road to penultimate success with women is paved by mastering the two fundamental areas of pickup: inner game and outer game.

Inner game is essentially the internal beliefs you hold that shape your perception of the world. Building up your inner game means uprooting the old internal beliefs that hold you back and replacing them with better, more empowering ones.

Outer game on the other hand are the techniques and methods you apply on the field to pick up. Outer game would also encompass knowledge of social dynamics - the underlying workings of social situations.

Today we will focus on inner game.

Inner Game

Have you ever met someone who just seems to exude a magnetic charisma? He never seems unsure of himself and appears to be in control no matter what the situation. When he speaks everyone listens to him. He is naturally dominant and people just go out of their way to follow him.

Likely you know someone like this. A dominant alpha male whose confidence seems to win everyone's respect and trust. Perhaps you are one of these respected alpha males.

However, more likely than not you are like the great majority of us who are not always the most assertive or dominant or likeable or confident in a social situation.

Does it mean you will remain this way forever? Maybe. Unless of course you put effort into improving your inner game.


So, how do we go about working on inner game? Should you even have to work on inner game?

Not really. If you focus entirely on outer game you will still get results. These little victories will boost your confidence. The additional confidence will increase your competance with your techniques and get you more results. It is a feedback process.

However I believe going at it this way is painful and unnecessary. By simply having some inner game knowledge, you'd be able to shave off a large portion of the learning curve. If you can make your journey easier, why the heck not?

Additionally there are schools of thought that opine that inner game is the end-all in learning pickup. According to them outer game is merely a set of trainer wheels used to build up your inner game until you get good enough to do without them. Style I believe is a proponent of such a doctrine.

I feel though that you will still need both inner game and outer game ultimately. Sure, having solid inner game puts you on par with natural pickup artists. However naturals rarely if ever do cold approaches - they merely work their social circles. By having outer game you do not have to limit yourself to friends of friends - anyone is fair game.

How to build up your inner game?


I recommend Carlos Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha Man. Or anything Carlos Xuma for that matter. His products are focused on inner game. I love the tone in which his ebook is written - it is a no-nonsense kick in the ass to get your fucking testicles out where the should be. The ebook is easy to read and digest.

If you apply his teachings you will stop being the little emo love sick puppy and become that ass kicking alpha wolf that you deserve to become.

Please note that I am in no way advertising for Carlos Xuma. I just use his stuff and it works. If you have any other good inner game product you're using, please do not hesitate to leave a comment.

I'll write a little on outer game soon. Stay tuned people!